Wedding Etiquette in the Age of Social Media

Navigating through the rules of wedding etiquette has always been difficult, but now social media is taking it to a whole new level. Engaged couples already have enough on their plates without having to worry about when or when not to post, tag or share. To make it easier, here’s some tips and tricks for celebrating a wedding in the digital age.

Do’s and Don’ts

  1. Don’t Change Your Facebook Status First: Getting engaged is incredibly exciting, but be sure to personally contact those who are most important to you (such as your parents, your siblings, grandparents, etc.) before posting your engagement on social media accounts.
  2. Do Think About Different Invites: If you’re going to have a formal engagement party or Jack and Jill, then it’s best to send traditional invitations, but if they’re going to be casual and low-key, then you can feel free to send a Facebook invite.

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  3. Don’t Brag About The Bling: It’s perfectly fine to post a picture of your engagement ring, but steer clear of creating hashtags or commenting on the carat weight, where it’s from and, of course, the price.
  4. Add Tech to Save The Date: There is nothing more special than receiving a Save the Date! Guests love the personal feeling of being thought of and included in your special moment. Don’t forget to add all of your social media and wedding website information on your stationery! This way, guests will know from the beginning what your hashtag is and will be able to see all of the pictures and information about your special moment from the start.
  5. Don’t Do Everything Online: Wedding invitations should always be physically mailed because the digital ones are impersonal. However, it is perfectly acceptable to allow your guests to RSVP digitally. Simply instruct them to text, use Facebook or your wedding website to RSVP. Likewise, thank you notes should be physically mailed, and hand-written, anything else seems cold and impersonal.

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  6. Do Be Honest! If you prefer a phone free/technology free wedding, tell your guests you prefer they don’t take or share photos of your wedding (you can do this online or on your wedding invitations). Be sure to let them know that you will be making wedding photos available for anyone who wants them.
  7. Don’t Update Social Media Immediately: While some couples are so excited they change their Facebook status to married right at the altar, it’s best to wait until after the reception so you can take the time to enjoy your special day.
  8. Do Share Your Location: Be sure to share your Google map location for the church as well as the reception with your guests to make it easier for them to navigate especially for those who are coming from out of town.

Creating a Wedding Website

Creating a wedding website is a fun, easy and efficient way to organize all of your wedding plans and activities. You can use your wedding website to create and share a wedding checklist with the rest of the wedding party, share updates about the wedding with your guests and create a link straight to your bridal registry.

This is ideal for couples who are registered at multiple places because most sites combine all your registries into one easy access gift list. In addition, your guests can quickly and easily RSVP right from your site.

Free website platforms make it easy to find a wide array of wedding themes and designs. That are also well-known wedding sites that offer hundreds of wedding website templates, that make it easy to create and personalize yours.

These platforms allow you to create personalized URLs as well as link your wedding hashtags and all your social media accounts to your site so that all your wedding moments are saved in one place.

How and When to Create Wedding Hashtags

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For those who embrace having a digital wedding and want their friends to take pictures of their special day, creating personalized wedding hashtags is great way to access all of your wedding pictures and videos online. It is important to make your wedding hashtags are personal so that they stand out from the rest.

When Creating Customized Wedding Hashtags You Should:

  1. Try to incorporate your first, last and/or nicknames. It’s also popular for couples to use mashup names in their hashtags.
  2. Use numbers in your hashtags because there may be a ton of #WeddingReception, or #JackandJill’s out there but few #WeddingReception060516. While it’s best for the numbers to be associated with the wedding date if those numbers are not available, try using the day you first met or another number sequence that is meaningful to you and your future spouse.
  3. Be sure to test your hashtags out to verify that the pictures are actually associated with them before instructing your guests to use them.
  4. Once they have been created, be sure to include the hashtags you want your guests to use on your save-the-dates, wedding invites, and all of your stationery so everyone knows well ahead of time which ones to use.

Naomi Shaw lives in Southern California with her husband and three kids. She is a free-lance journalist and stay at home mom that enjoys writing on fashion and beauty around the web and is a regular contributor for Brilliance.com.

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Enter our “World Stationery Day” Giveaway

In celebration of the 2016 World Stationery Day and the written word, we are hosting a Giveaway! Everyone who participates on April 27, 2016, as detailed below, will receive one box of free Crane stationery. Here is how to take part:

1) Log onto your Pinterest account, follow us and create a board called “World Stationery Day 2016”.

2) Fill your board with at least 15 pins featuring all things stationery, including at least 5 pins of Crane & Co. stationery. Use images from our website www.crane.com or our Pinterest boards as your pins.

3) Email us a link to your board at submissions@crane.com.

4) Tell all your friends about this important day and ask them to enter, too.

5) Keep writing!

Terms & Conditions 

By participating in the 2016 World Stationery Day Giveaway, the participant grants Crane & Co. permission to promote the participant’s name and submission for marketing purposes. Slight alterations may be made by staff in order to fit size restrictions on our digital marketing platforms.

If children under the age of 18 are shown on the participant’s submitted Pinterest board, a parent or legal guardian must approve the inclusion of said photo. The giveaway ends at 11:59 p.m., EDT on Wednesday, 27 April, 2016. Links to boards must be received before the end of the giveaway to be eligible. Any received after Wednesday, 27 April, 2016, will be disqualified. Only one Pinterest board per participant is permitted, and it must be submitted via email.

All submitted boards have an equal opportunity. Boards will be accepted with no discrimination toward sex, race or age. All decisions are final. Crane & Co. reserves the right to refuse any board they deem unacceptable for any reason.

Participants will be responsible for obtaining any and all consents, approvals and licenses required in connection with their participation in the giveaway. Participants will be contacted by Crane & Co. via Pinterest and the prize will be release within two weeks.

Participation in this giveaway includes automatic sign-up for the weekly Crane & Co. e-newsletter.

Each participant will receive one box of stationery from the www.crane.com website, with an estimated value of $20. Crane & Co. reserves the right to substitute a product of equal or greater value. The participant may not exchange the giveaway item for cash or any other merchandise or service. The participant will be solely responsible for all applicable taxes related to accepting the prize.

Participants are granting Crane & Co. an irrevocable, royalty-free, worldwide right and license to use your Pinterest board in connection with the giveaway and feature your Pinterest board and all its content in connection with the giveaway in all media (now known or hereafter developed). Participants agree to sign any necessary documentation that may be required for us and our designees to make use of the rights participants grant above. Participants will not receive any compensation or credit for use of their Pinterest board, other than as described in these terms and conditions.

By entering this giveaway, each participant is, to the extent allowed by law, releasing and holding harmless Crane & Co., Inc and its subsidiaries, affiliates, employees and agents from any and all liability arising from or in connection with the giveaway or any prize received.

You are not eligible to participate in the giveaway if you are an employee or an immediate family (parent, sibling, spouse, child) or household member of Crane & Co. or any of its subsidiaries, or a person involved in any part of the administration or execution of the giveaway. This giveaway is void in Puerto Rico and wherever else prohibited.

Have a question about our giveaway? Email the Crane Concierge at submissions@crane.com.

Enter our “Oscar Stationery” Giveaway

In celebration of 88th Academy Awards, we are hosting the “Oscar Stationery” Giveaway. Everyone who participates will receive one box of stationery from the “Boxed Note Cards” section of www.crane.com. Here is how to enter:

1) Log onto your Pinterest account, follow us and create a board called “Oscar Stationery”.

2) Fill your board with at least 7 A-listers nominated for Oscar this year and match them with Crane & Co. stationery pieces that suit their personality best in your opinion. Use images from our website www.crane.com or our Pinterest boards as your Pins.

3) Email us a link to your board at concierge@crane.com.

4) Tell all your friends to enter, too.

5) Toast to all 2016 Oscar Nominees and wish them best of luck!

Terms & Conditions 

By entering the “Oscar Stationery” Giveaway, the contestant grants Crane & Co. permission to promote the contestant’s name and submission for marketing purposes. Slight alterations may be made by staff in order to fit size restrictions on our digital marketing platforms.

If children under the age of 18 are shown on the contestant’s submitted Pinterest board, a parent or legal guardian must approve the inclusion of said photo. The contest ends at 11:59 p.m., EDT on Monday, February 29th, 2016. Entries must be received before the end of the contest to be eligible. Any received after February 29th, 2016, will be disqualified. Only one Pinterest board per contestant is permitted, and it must be submitted via email.

All submitted boards have an equal opportunity. Boards will be accepted with no discrimination toward sex, race or age. All decisions are final. Crane & Co. reserves the right to refuse any board they deem unacceptable for any reason.

Contestants will be responsible for obtaining any and all consents, approvals and licenses required in connection with their participation in the contest. Contestants will be contacted by Crane & Co. via Pinterest and the prize will be release within two weeks.

By entering the contest, contestants are automatically signed up for the weekly Crane & Co. e-newsletter.

The winner will receive one box of stationery from the “Boxed Note Cards” section of www.crane.com. The estimated value of this prize is $20.00. Crane & Co. reserves the right to substitute a prize of equal or greater value. The winner may not exchange the prize for cash or any other merchandise or service. The winner will be solely responsible for all applicable taxes related to accepting the prize.

Contestants are granting Crane & Co. an irrevocable, royalty-free, worldwide right and license to use your entry in connection with the contest and feature your entry and all its content in connection with the contest in all media (now known or hereafter developed). Contestants agree to sign any necessary documentation that may be required for us and our designees to make use of the rights contestants grant above. Contestants will not receive any compensation or credit for use of their entry, other than as described in these terms and conditions.

The potential winner may be required sign an affidavit of eligibility, a liability/publicity release and other documentation. If the potential winner does not and return these required forms within the time period stated on the winner notification message, Crane & Co. may disqualify that person and select an alternate winner. Crane & Co. is not responsible for any unauthorized use of contestants.

By entry this contest, each contestant is, to the extent allowed by law, releasing and holding harmless Crane & Co., Inc and its subsidiaries, affiliates, employees and agents from any and all liability arising from or in connection with the contest or any prize won.

You are not eligible to participate in the contest if you are an employee or an immediate family (parent, sibling, spouse, child) or household member of Crane & Co. or any of its subsidiaries, or a person involved in any part of the administration or execution of the contest. This contest is void in Puerto Rico and wherever else prohibited.

Have a question about our contest? Email the Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

A special thank you to our fans…

We appreciate all of our fans and love it when they use our stationery to say thank you! Tom Brady did just that with a beautiful thank you letter to his fans written on Crane & Co. personalized engraved stationery. Click here to read his eloquent note.

Tom Brady Letter to His Fans

As a thank you to all fans of the written word we’re offering a special 10% discount “BRADY” promotion exclusively on our website from now through January 31st.

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Personalized Profile: Head of the Class Craftsmanship

Alexa_PulitzerwebWe adore it when personalized stationery comes with a story. So, when we learned that this Flame Red correspondence card featuring a gold engraved elephant—illustrated by Alexa Pulitzer—was for a soon-to-be college student heading to the University of Alabama, well, we never knew a university’s signature color and its mascot could come together to create such lovely stationery.

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“I must say, it’s truly incredible to be moved by the beauty of engraving and fine papers,” long-time client Elizabeth told Alexa of her daughter’s new stationery. “I was speechless by the elegance and finery of Allison’s Royal Elephant. Your design represents her first impression as she embarks her next stage in life as a student at the University of Alabama. I am genuinely and sincerely in awe. A million thanks!”

We’ve always said personalized stationery makes the perfect graduation gift, and this custom design certainly takes the cake. Or, in this case, the crimson.

If you would like to learn more about custom stationery, please email the Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

Personalized Profile: Stationery for the Very Very Fine House

To suggest to us that personalized stationery makes a lovely gift would be preaching to the choir. Be it for a hostess, a new baby or a new graduate, we have never met a recipient who did not express genuine glee upon opening our signature blue box (baby excluded, of course). However, when we heard that personalized stationery was the gift of choice for one New York City real estate broker to his clients, even the choir’s ears perked up.

Of course, such a gift makes perfect sense. What better way to celebrate the purchase of a new home than with its address printed on an envelope flap? Below, Kyle Haas shares some advice on how to pinpoint someone else’s personal style and the importance of leaving a lasting impression—one handwritten note at a time.

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What do you love most about giving personalized stationery as a gift to your clients?
When a client purchases a new home, there is no more perfect gift than personalized stationery with their new return address on the envelope. The clients are always appreciative and I, from a business standpoint, know that they’ll think of me each time they use it. That’s so much better than sending a generic postcard or email to keep in touch.

How do you go about choosing a design that best fits your clients’ style?
One of the other great things about giving personalized stationery is that it’s, well, personalized. I can take cues from my clients’ décor or personalities to help me decide which fonts, colors and styles to choose. If I’m not sure of design choices, the Crane Concierge has been very helpful.

What is normally the reaction from clients to this gift?
My clients are always very appreciative. They all remark about how perfect the gift is and seem taken by the thoughtfulness. I really can think of no better way to leave a lasting impression after my clients close on their new home.

Should you care for more advice on how to give personalized stationery as a gift, please don’t hesitate to contact our Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

Summer Gift Idea: House Stationery

Now that summer is officially here, invitations from friends to various cozy retreats are beginning to arrive and thus we are reminded of the loveliness of house stationery as a host/hostess gift.

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Commonly placed in a country or beach home, house stationery may be used by any resident of the house or by any guest during their stay. It typically features the name of the house or the address but can also be designed to fit the mood of the location. A graphic of a lake, a palm tree or mountains are all nice ways to convey the feeling and spirit of the place.

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House stationery, of course, is different from family stationery. The latter features the family surname and/or the given names of all the family members, and thus is not appropriate for guests.

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Should you like more suggestions or advice on house stationery, please contact our Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

Personalized Profile: A Mother of the Groom Takes Note

fresh-ink-personalized-stationeryThese exquisite gold engraved cards and notes were created for a recent client by Fresh Ink, located in Jackson, Mississippi. The client, a “mother of the groom,” wanted distinguished stationery for correspondence regarding parties, notes of appreciation and general letter writing during such a special family time.

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After admiring the sea glass note for many months, she settled on gold engraving and a fleur de lis motif.

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An elegant ivory correspondence card with a unique monogram, engraved in gold also, gave her a different option in her wardrobe.

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Personalized Profile: A Savvy Scribe Shows Her Stripes

Personalized stationery should always reflect the personality of the sender—or, in the case of one savvy scribe, her stripes. For etiquette expert Lisa Grotts’ personalized stationery, her monogram was nestled into a vibrantly red zebra on a crisp, white correspondence card and paired with a matching red envelope lining. Linda Burns of Burns and Associates Fine Printing in San Francisco helped turn her vision into a reality. Below, they talk about why stationery is like shoes and why people seem to be returning to paper and pen.

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The Customer: Lisa

Tell me about your design and how did you reach your decision to go with it?
My company logo used to have an icon of the Golden Gate Bridge, as in “bridging” the gap of communities etc. The zebra icon has the same effect for me: It shows the many lines of communication and cleverly done. I used to have it in navy blue but switched over to lucky red in 2015. I also have them as calling cards.

Did you know what you wanted going into your first appointment and did that change at all?
Decisive is my middle name. I told Linda Burns ahead of time to pull out the stops on the zebra cards as well as the color, but I’m a softie when it comes to stationery (I have more styles than jeans), so I generally end up buying double or sometimes triple the amount as I like choice. Some people require formal thank you notes, others do not—that’s when the zebra comes in handy.

For you, what is the value of personalized stationery?
As a certified etiquette expert, I teach the value of why one needs to have the perfect stationery wardrobe. I have written a piece on my Huffington Post blog on this subject, and business and social stationery components are part of most of my etiquette seminars. More is more when it comes to stationery, just like shoes and handbags—paper is the “It” accessory. Thank you for asking.

The Stationer: Linda

Tell me about working with Lisa and how you helped guide her through the design process.
I work often with Lisa and she loves stationery as I do. She is very clear and decisive and she’s wonderful to work with. I take what she likes and then mock it up into various uses—business cards, note cards, fold-overs, stationery, etc.

What are the questions you usually ask every customer who comes in wanting to order personalized stationery?
I always spend the time to make sure I know what a customer likes and how they intend to use their stationery before I offer suggestions. I show them examples and give them alternatives and options. Stationery decisions are visual ones, and it’s helpful to have a customer see the choices.


In today’s digital age, what is the importance of personalized stationery? 
Invitations set the tone for an event and personal notes, thank yous, remembrances—handwritten and personal—are important enough to be done on paper rather than digitally sent. I find that more and more people are returning to printed forms rather than digital when they want to distinguish it from the e-formats. I hear often, “I enjoy receiving something in the mail rather than on the screen—I like to hold it in my hand and have it around when I’m not online to refer to. I also like to write a personal note so it doesn’t look like a group message.”

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Personalized Profile: A Gift Horse Worth A Look

Over the years we’ve received a mailbox’s (the big USPS blue variety, that is) worth of emails asking us for advice on how one goes about designing personalized stationery for someone else. After all, it is a gift that is so, well, personal. When we came across stationery enthusiast Lauren’s design for her parents, we knew she would have some words of wisdom on the subject.

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What was the inspiration behind this design?
My dad works for the New York Racing Association and my mom is a horse lover through and through. They spend the summer in Saratoga, NY and are out almost every night of the week at someone’s home for cocktails or dinner. I thought these flat cards would be perfect for sending thank you notes to their hosts.

Nothing says classic to me like gold engraved stationery. I loved the idea of a simple equestrian motif, and given their involvement in racing, this horse was a perfect choice. I used my parents’ informal names and chose a striped envelope liner to add a little playfulness to the design.
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