Wedding Etiquette in the Age of Social Media

Navigating through the rules of wedding etiquette has always been difficult, but now social media is taking it to a whole new level. Engaged couples already have enough on their plates without having to worry about when or when not to post, tag or share. To make it easier, here’s some tips and tricks for celebrating a wedding in the digital age.

Do’s and Don’ts

  1. Don’t Change Your Facebook Status First: Getting engaged is incredibly exciting, but be sure to personally contact those who are most important to you (such as your parents, your siblings, grandparents, etc.) before posting your engagement on social media accounts.
  2. Do Think About Different Invites: If you’re going to have a formal engagement party or Jack and Jill, then it’s best to send traditional invitations, but if they’re going to be casual and low-key, then you can feel free to send a Facebook invite.

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  3. Don’t Brag About The Bling: It’s perfectly fine to post a picture of your engagement ring, but steer clear of creating hashtags or commenting on the carat weight, where it’s from and, of course, the price.
  4. Add Tech to Save The Date: There is nothing more special than receiving a Save the Date! Guests love the personal feeling of being thought of and included in your special moment. Don’t forget to add all of your social media and wedding website information on your stationery! This way, guests will know from the beginning what your hashtag is and will be able to see all of the pictures and information about your special moment from the start.
  5. Don’t Do Everything Online: Wedding invitations should always be physically mailed because the digital ones are impersonal. However, it is perfectly acceptable to allow your guests to RSVP digitally. Simply instruct them to text, use Facebook or your wedding website to RSVP. Likewise, thank you notes should be physically mailed, and hand-written, anything else seems cold and impersonal.

    Untitled1Engraved Marquis Buchanan Invitation

  6. Do Be Honest! If you prefer a phone free/technology free wedding, tell your guests you prefer they don’t take or share photos of your wedding (you can do this online or on your wedding invitations). Be sure to let them know that you will be making wedding photos available for anyone who wants them.
  7. Don’t Update Social Media Immediately: While some couples are so excited they change their Facebook status to married right at the altar, it’s best to wait until after the reception so you can take the time to enjoy your special day.
  8. Do Share Your Location: Be sure to share your Google map location for the church as well as the reception with your guests to make it easier for them to navigate especially for those who are coming from out of town.

Creating a Wedding Website

Creating a wedding website is a fun, easy and efficient way to organize all of your wedding plans and activities. You can use your wedding website to create and share a wedding checklist with the rest of the wedding party, share updates about the wedding with your guests and create a link straight to your bridal registry.

This is ideal for couples who are registered at multiple places because most sites combine all your registries into one easy access gift list. In addition, your guests can quickly and easily RSVP right from your site.

Free website platforms make it easy to find a wide array of wedding themes and designs. That are also well-known wedding sites that offer hundreds of wedding website templates, that make it easy to create and personalize yours.

These platforms allow you to create personalized URLs as well as link your wedding hashtags and all your social media accounts to your site so that all your wedding moments are saved in one place.

How and When to Create Wedding Hashtags

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For those who embrace having a digital wedding and want their friends to take pictures of their special day, creating personalized wedding hashtags is great way to access all of your wedding pictures and videos online. It is important to make your wedding hashtags are personal so that they stand out from the rest.

When Creating Customized Wedding Hashtags You Should:

  1. Try to incorporate your first, last and/or nicknames. It’s also popular for couples to use mashup names in their hashtags.
  2. Use numbers in your hashtags because there may be a ton of #WeddingReception, or #JackandJill’s out there but few #WeddingReception060516. While it’s best for the numbers to be associated with the wedding date if those numbers are not available, try using the day you first met or another number sequence that is meaningful to you and your future spouse.
  3. Be sure to test your hashtags out to verify that the pictures are actually associated with them before instructing your guests to use them.
  4. Once they have been created, be sure to include the hashtags you want your guests to use on your save-the-dates, wedding invites, and all of your stationery so everyone knows well ahead of time which ones to use.

Naomi Shaw lives in Southern California with her husband and three kids. She is a free-lance journalist and stay at home mom that enjoys writing on fashion and beauty around the web and is a regular contributor for Brilliance.com.

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Personalized Profile: Head of the Class Craftsmanship

Alexa_PulitzerwebWe adore it when personalized stationery comes with a story. So, when we learned that this Flame Red correspondence card featuring a gold engraved elephant—illustrated by Alexa Pulitzer—was for a soon-to-be college student heading to the University of Alabama, well, we never knew a university’s signature color and its mascot could come together to create such lovely stationery.

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“I must say, it’s truly incredible to be moved by the beauty of engraving and fine papers,” long-time client Elizabeth told Alexa of her daughter’s new stationery. “I was speechless by the elegance and finery of Allison’s Royal Elephant. Your design represents her first impression as she embarks her next stage in life as a student at the University of Alabama. I am genuinely and sincerely in awe. A million thanks!”

We’ve always said personalized stationery makes the perfect graduation gift, and this custom design certainly takes the cake. Or, in this case, the crimson.

If you would like to learn more about custom stationery, please email the Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

Personalized Profile: Stationery for the Very Very Fine House

To suggest to us that personalized stationery makes a lovely gift would be preaching to the choir. Be it for a hostess, a new baby or a new graduate, we have never met a recipient who did not express genuine glee upon opening our signature blue box (baby excluded, of course). However, when we heard that personalized stationery was the gift of choice for one New York City real estate broker to his clients, even the choir’s ears perked up.

Of course, such a gift makes perfect sense. What better way to celebrate the purchase of a new home than with its address printed on an envelope flap? Below, Kyle Haas shares some advice on how to pinpoint someone else’s personal style and the importance of leaving a lasting impression—one handwritten note at a time.

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What do you love most about giving personalized stationery as a gift to your clients?
When a client purchases a new home, there is no more perfect gift than personalized stationery with their new return address on the envelope. The clients are always appreciative and I, from a business standpoint, know that they’ll think of me each time they use it. That’s so much better than sending a generic postcard or email to keep in touch.

How do you go about choosing a design that best fits your clients’ style?
One of the other great things about giving personalized stationery is that it’s, well, personalized. I can take cues from my clients’ décor or personalities to help me decide which fonts, colors and styles to choose. If I’m not sure of design choices, the Crane Concierge has been very helpful.

What is normally the reaction from clients to this gift?
My clients are always very appreciative. They all remark about how perfect the gift is and seem taken by the thoughtfulness. I really can think of no better way to leave a lasting impression after my clients close on their new home.

Should you care for more advice on how to give personalized stationery as a gift, please don’t hesitate to contact our Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

Summer Gift Idea: House Stationery

Now that summer is officially here, invitations from friends to various cozy retreats are beginning to arrive and thus we are reminded of the loveliness of house stationery as a host/hostess gift.

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Commonly placed in a country or beach home, house stationery may be used by any resident of the house or by any guest during their stay. It typically features the name of the house or the address but can also be designed to fit the mood of the location. A graphic of a lake, a palm tree or mountains are all nice ways to convey the feeling and spirit of the place.

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House stationery, of course, is different from family stationery. The latter features the family surname and/or the given names of all the family members, and thus is not appropriate for guests.

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Should you like more suggestions or advice on house stationery, please contact our Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.

Personalized Profile: A Gift Horse Worth A Look

Over the years we’ve received a mailbox’s (the big USPS blue variety, that is) worth of emails asking us for advice on how one goes about designing personalized stationery for someone else. After all, it is a gift that is so, well, personal. When we came across stationery enthusiast Lauren’s design for her parents, we knew she would have some words of wisdom on the subject.

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What was the inspiration behind this design?
My dad works for the New York Racing Association and my mom is a horse lover through and through. They spend the summer in Saratoga, NY and are out almost every night of the week at someone’s home for cocktails or dinner. I thought these flat cards would be perfect for sending thank you notes to their hosts.

Nothing says classic to me like gold engraved stationery. I loved the idea of a simple equestrian motif, and given their involvement in racing, this horse was a perfect choice. I used my parents’ informal names and chose a striped envelope liner to add a little playfulness to the design.
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Stationery Gift Ideas for Everyone on Your List

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A classic personalized monarch card paired with one of our handsomely patterned envelope linings is perfect for the gentleman on your list, while the new graduate will find his or her calling cards quite handy when it comes time to network.

For the charming little lady on your list, only a personalized card or note with a lovely envelope lining will do, and for the inspiring educator worth his or her weight in red apples, a box of our engraved stationery will earn you an A+ in gift giving.

For your staff, jotter cards will make their notes that much more memorable, and last but certainly not least, for the woman on you list with a timeless and classic style all her own, monogrammed stationery is sure to inspire a smile.

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Mum’s the Word: Stationery for Every Mother’s Day Style

crane momsCharming Mum: Letterpress Ecruwhite Calling Card
Business-minded Mum: Lettterpress Pearl White Calling Card
Royal Mum: Monogram Note with Border
Modern Mum: Letterpress Pearl White Tiverton Correspondence Card

All Hallow’s Eve Inspiration: Orange & Black Hues to Get Us in the Spirit

halloween stationery1. Hand Engraved Black Cat Note: Invite someone to curl up with the news of your world by sending it on our hand engraved note with a tuxedoed cat. The matching white envelope features a white liner with black polka dots.

2. Engraved Black Cat Note on Ecru: What does our little feline friend have on her mind? What all cats do – resting in style. Perfect for a newsy note, a thank you or RSVP. Matching envelopes included.

3. Hand Engraved Monogram on Pearl White Correspondence Card: A penthouse view offers quite the inspiration for one’s correspondence, be it to client or confidant. Equally inspiring is this crisp, pearl white card, engraved with a handsome monogram in black ink — a combination most dapper and decisive.

4. Engraved Monogram on Pearl White Sheet: A monogram Jay Gatsby would adore, initials are handsomely arranged with an Art Deco-inspired touch. Black ink on a pearl white letter sheet allows for stark sophistication. Please note that additional blank white sheets for extra pages are a smart addition to any stationery wardrobe.

5. Orange Leather Refillable Notebook: These full grain goat skin leather notebooks include a spiral insert with 144 lined perforated pages on gold-gilded paper. Handy for everyday note taking, business or journal writing.

6. Black Leather Refillable Notebook: This French Milled Full Grain Calf Skin leather notebook includes a spiral insert with 144 lined, perforated pages on gold-gilded premium paper. Handy for everyday note taking, business or journal writing.

7. Pearl White Note with Lion Motif: King of the Jungle stands watch over this pearl white note. Illustrated in our cheerful Clementine ink, he can’t help but inspire roaring good missives to loved ones near and far.

8. Letterpress Pearl White Calling Card with Dotted Rule: Design with sophisticated sensibilities, personalization in our Clementine hue accompanied by well-placed pertinent information in charcoal makes for business cards that would surely make Eames ecstatic.

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Father’s Day Stationery: Our Top Six Selections

Father’s Day is right around the corner (June 16th, to be exact), and what better gift for the most confident, classic man you know than the most confident, classic stationery everyone knows? Below are a handful of our favorite selections — almost as dashing as he is.

ImageBusiness not as usual courtesy of an ecruwhite card handsomely framed in black. An understated type suits the humble overachiever.

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Mother’s Day Stationery Ideas for Every Personality

Moms come in all shapes and sizes. So do their personalities. We’ve identified some of our favorite moms — past and present — and matched them with the Crane stationery we thought one might find in their writing desk. Be it traditional, classic, elegant or sophisticated (or perhaps all of the above), we like to think we have correspondence that fits every mom’s distinct style.

For the lady who likens herself to…

June
She bakes. She knows how to fold a fitted sheet. She always has a tissue handy. For the Mom who fancies tradition and treats, a classic motif a-la our hydrangea is certain to make her swoon.

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Jackie
She makes hostessing look effortless. Her social calendar is always full. You routinely raid her closet. For the Mom who fancies the classics and Capri, an elegant flourish is sets just the right tone.

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Diana
She’s as at ease in diamonds as she is in riding pants. However her children are her favorite accessory. For the Mom who fancies the finer things as well as the little things, a gold monogram fit for a princess.

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Angelina
She is effortlessly stunning. Though making time for her family is always her most beautiful quality. For the Mom who fancies sophisticated style and summers on the Siene, a monogram with oversized flourish in a hue most magnificent will earn a kiss.

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Need more Mother’s Day gift ideas? Email our Crane Concierge at concierge@crane.com.