Navigating through the rules of wedding etiquette has always been difficult, but now social media is taking it to a whole new level. Engaged couples already have enough on their plates without having to worry about when or when not to post, tag or share. To make it easier, here’s some tips and tricks for celebrating a wedding in the digital age.
Do’s and Don’ts
- Don’t Change Your Facebook Status First: Getting engaged is incredibly exciting, but be sure to personally contact those who are most important to you (such as your parents, your siblings, grandparents, etc.) before posting your engagement on social media accounts.
- Do Think About Different Invites: If you’re going to have a formal engagement party or Jack and Jill, then it’s best to send traditional invitations, but if they’re going to be casual and low-key, then you can feel free to send a Facebook invite.
Engraved Embassy Regatta Wedding Invitation
- Don’t Brag About The Bling: It’s perfectly fine to post a picture of your engagement ring, but steer clear of creating hashtags or commenting on the carat weight, where it’s from and, of course, the price.
- Add Tech to Save The Date: There is nothing more special than receiving a Save the Date! Guests love the personal feeling of being thought of and included in your special moment. Don’t forget to add all of your social media and wedding website information on your stationery! This way, guests will know from the beginning what your hashtag is and will be able to see all of the pictures and information about your special moment from the start.
- Don’t Do Everything Online: Wedding invitations should always be physically mailed because the digital ones are impersonal. However, it is perfectly acceptable to allow your guests to RSVP digitally. Simply instruct them to text, use Facebook or your wedding website to RSVP. Likewise, thank you notes should be physically mailed, and hand-written, anything else seems cold and impersonal.
Engraved Marquis Buchanan Invitation
- Do Be Honest! If you prefer a phone free/technology free wedding, tell your guests you prefer they don’t take or share photos of your wedding (you can do this online or on your wedding invitations). Be sure to let them know that you will be making wedding photos available for anyone who wants them.
- Don’t Update Social Media Immediately: While some couples are so excited they change their Facebook status to married right at the altar, it’s best to wait until after the reception so you can take the time to enjoy your special day.
- Do Share Your Location: Be sure to share your Google map location for the church as well as the reception with your guests to make it easier for them to navigate especially for those who are coming from out of town.
Creating a Wedding Website
Creating a wedding website is a fun, easy and efficient way to organize all of your wedding plans and activities. You can use your wedding website to create and share a wedding checklist with the rest of the wedding party, share updates about the wedding with your guests and create a link straight to your bridal registry.
This is ideal for couples who are registered at multiple places because most sites combine all your registries into one easy access gift list. In addition, your guests can quickly and easily RSVP right from your site.
Free website platforms make it easy to find a wide array of wedding themes and designs. That are also well-known wedding sites that offer hundreds of wedding website templates, that make it easy to create and personalize yours.
These platforms allow you to create personalized URLs as well as link your wedding hashtags and all your social media accounts to your site so that all your wedding moments are saved in one place.
How and When to Create Wedding Hashtags
Engraved Lily Table Card
For those who embrace having a digital wedding and want their friends to take pictures of their special day, creating personalized wedding hashtags is great way to access all of your wedding pictures and videos online. It is important to make your wedding hashtags are personal so that they stand out from the rest.
When Creating Customized Wedding Hashtags You Should:
- Try to incorporate your first, last and/or nicknames. It’s also popular for couples to use mashup names in their hashtags.
- Use numbers in your hashtags because there may be a ton of #WeddingReception, or #JackandJill’s out there but few #WeddingReception060516. While it’s best for the numbers to be associated with the wedding date if those numbers are not available, try using the day you first met or another number sequence that is meaningful to you and your future spouse.
- Be sure to test your hashtags out to verify that the pictures are actually associated with them before instructing your guests to use them.
- Once they have been created, be sure to include the hashtags you want your guests to use on your save-the-dates, wedding invites, and all of your stationery so everyone knows well ahead of time which ones to use.
Naomi Shaw lives in Southern California with her husband and three kids. She is a free-lance journalist and stay at home mom that enjoys writing on fashion and beauty around the web and is a regular contributor for Brilliance.com.
For the eager hostess, no time is more exciting than the holiday season. The delight is in the details: Festive garlands, perfectly garnished cocktails and, of course, beautiful invitations and stationery accessories. Below are our recommendations for making your soiree the toast of the town.
The invitation sets the tone for the event. Exquisite printing in vibrant ink on our coveted 100% cotton paper will certainly evoke one of a soiree not to miss.
Place & Table Cards
Create a feast most memorable by making guests feel impossibly special. Table cards, which guide them to their respective seats, and place cards, which greet them once they arrive there, do just that.
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Couple Jessica and David’s wedding invitation is proof that it is possible to be both on-trend and completely original. For their charcoal-atop-pearl white invitation, they incorporated not one but two of the most popular trends we’re seeing these days—monograms/duograms and calligraphic typestyles. However, instead of choosing a duogram design from our album, they chose to have one custom drawn. Below, Taylor of The Lettered Lily in Salisbury, North Carolina shares the details and Jessica shares the importance of sticking to your vision—and always agreeing to go see a turtle.
The Bride: Jessica
Tell me how you and your fiance met, and how did he propose?
David and I met when we were six years old. We had the same group of friends. Although we spoke to everyone in the group, we never spoke to each other. It wasn’t until we were 21 that we said our first words. His older brother was in a horrible car accident three months prior. My father was his neurologist. He and his family were spending some time at their river house near Camden, South Carolina and invited my family to visit. When I arrived, David was playing horseshoes with his father and mine. I walked down the stairs and gave my dad a hug, said “hi” to David’s dad, and then turned to David. I said, “Hello!” He simply looked down at his shoes and replied, “Hey.” We spent the rest of the day talking and the rest is history.
For the next four years, David and I were inseparable. We saw each other as often as we could, mostly on weekends since we were finishing college. We spent many hours on the golf course near his house. One night, before David was set to move up to Washington, DC and start his new job, he and I started watching a movie at his house. His mom went out and his sister, Leigh, went out for a run. About 10 minutes after Leigh left, she called David. She had found a huge snapping turtle on the golf course. We rushed over to see it. (Their grandfather had put one there when they were young. Could this be the same one?)
By the time we got to the spot, the turtle had swum away. David called my name. I turned around. We were eye-level, which was weird since he is about 15 inches taller than me. He told me that I was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. He loved how we had intelligent conversations and still found time to be silly and ridiculous. He loved me! He wanted to spend the rest of eternity with me! I was stunned. The evening sun was just beginning to set as I said “yes,” not even noticing that we were in our spot at the golf course. We hugged and kissed, completely forgetting Leigh was standing right there. We turned and thanked her. She had been taking pictures. No, there was no turtle and we were eye-level for a wonderful reason!
Tell me about the process of choosing your wedding invitations and did you have something in mind going into your first appointment? Did that change?
My mom and I had been referred to The Lettered Lily for our save the dates and invitations. We both wanted something simple and elegant and went to our first appointment with open minds. Continue reading
We receive many queries from businesses concerning wording, be it for a gala or a move to a new office. From our Business Essentials guide, a primary on invitations and announcements.
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For more guidance on your business stationery wardrobe, please read our Business Essentials guide.
Recently, we introduced our new 2015 wedding suite designs, and, as always, the assortment is rich in process and celebrates Crane’s legacy of timeless, exquisite wedding designs. Of course, we added a handful of bells and whistles that weren’t available in previous collections and highlighted some of those below—hope you enjoy!
First, we’ve added suite names that reflect the personality of each design and hopefully will inspire brides as they go through the exciting process of choosing an invitation. For example, the Catalina suite is awash in coastal charm. Our Beach Glass paper is paired with elegantly blind embossed motifs, making it perfect for the sweetest seaside affair.
Our Alexandria suite is dressed in a 24-karat-gold gilt edge and a new duogram atop premium weight paper. A beautifully drawn monogram is the perfect way to introduce wedding guests to the (future) Mr. & Mrs. Engraved in gold and accompanied by elegant black type, this invitation is the perfect choice for the classic couple. Continue reading
Grooms Trifon and David both work in the interior design field, so it was no surprise that when it came to their wedding invitation (and we’re guessing every other aspect of their wedding), they came with a discriminating eye. “We wanted something simple and classic, but with a touch of spirit,” they said of their invitation. Here the couple and their stationer talk to us about using color, the ever-important question of “when is your wedding?” and why a proof is so very important.
Photo courtesy of Rebecca Yale
Meet Avalon Stationery and Gifts co-owner Sue Littleton, who opened her Houston shop with her daughter more than 25 years ago. Here, one of our favorite and longtime Crane & Co. retailers talks about owning a small business, her customers and the power of a particular postcard.
When did your interest in the epistolary world begin?
When my daughter, Charlene, was small, her playtime adventures always centered around selling things. After graduating from Baylor University, a family friend asked Charlene what career path she would like to take. We had been fantasizing about having a store together and even called on several locations. Twenty-six years ago, we could not ever have imagined that we would get to work together and love the small business challenges, but our devotion has rewarded us beyond any goal we could have ever set for ourselves.
Earlier this month, we introduced our brand new Wedding Album. You’ll see that we’ve kept the classic details we’ve always been known (and loved) for, but also added fresh design elements our more trend-inspired brides will delight in.
We like to think this album has something fore every bride, actually.
For the wedding…
Beyond the Gates…
In the Garden…
In the City…
In the Spotlight…
To shop our complete Wedding collection, please visit us online or at your local Crane & Co. retailer.
When it comes to projects of the epistolary variety, calligrapher Ashantai Yungai, founder of Distinctive Inscriptions, isn’t one to back down from a challenge. So, when a bride asked him to pen 1,000 envelopes for her Hawaiian wedding, he not only agreed, he blogged about the two-week-long endeavor. With a good nib, a little Joni Mitchell and a bag of flour, he proved victorious. Perhaps it’s Yungai’s science background (he’s a chemist by trade), but it seems as though he has found the formula for the perfect flourish.
Ashantai Yungai, born to flourish.
Of course, we would never ask him to share his ‘secret sauce,’ be he does share with us missives pertaining to pens, sisters and the future of the handwritten word.
When did your interest in calligraphy begin?
June 2008. I am a chemist by trade. A friend saw my handwriting in my lab notebook and asked, “Did you write that? Wow man, that’s pretty cool! You should do calligraphy. People do wedding invitations and envelopes using calligraphy.” I thought little of it at the time. I bought a calligraphy pen on a whim one day while shopping for art supplies for my son. I began writing with it. From there I was off to the races.